This is going to sound like "Tough Love" .... but after you have organized your sewing areas, then is the overlying rule:
DO NOT BUY ANYMORE --- no more fabrics, no more gadgets and no more big machines (the embroidery machine). Do not add any more 'things' to your recently cleaned-up clutter.. Use up the inventory of fabrics, see it dwindle and you'll be happier and less stressed. As it dwindles, do not replace it with more fabric. Keep it dwindling and dwindling. Do not even accept free donations of fabrics... Do not buy fabrics, even if it is on sale.... there will always be more sales.
Right now, you have enough stuff and fabric stashes and do not need to add to it. If your hubby is deployed, then he probably wants/needs you to maintain the home front... I realize that you have a full plate right now, but adding more to that plate will not help you in any way.