I survived colon cancer about 13 years ago (Yeah!). After the surgery and chemo was all over, I wanted no reminders. I did not want to feel different. Over time it got easier to talk about and the word "cancer" quit making me cringe. Like others have said go with your gut. Myself I would have loved a quilt but maybe something that signifies new beginnings or even her favorite color. What a wonderful sister she has and I know the families struggle right along with the family/friend fighting that cancer battle.