I battled with BC a few years ago. Luckily I've been clean for 7 years. Funny thing is, you don't need reminders. It's never far from your thoughts. My daughter had a bi lateral 2 years ago. I don't think she'll forget either. My youngest daughter sent us both quilts. Mine is on my bed now. I guess what I'm trying to say is you don't need reminders of something like this. You just never forget. I'm sorry for her struggle and that of your families.