I am so sorry for your shattered dream quilt. I have a bunch or old hankies that I got at an antique auction that I would be happy to send you. I know that they would not be the same, but they may be in the same era and if you have even a little bit left of the ones you had they may be able to suppliment what you have and the quilt can still be done as you had planned. Please PM me and I will be happy to send them to you. It will still be a memorable quilt because you made it especially for her and I know that alone will make her love it.
kashu