I can undetstand being hurt but I really think your friend didn't mean to hurt your feelings by the comment she made...people say things and don't realize the impact of their words. If she really disliked it, it would have disappeared. She asked you to add a ruffle because she wanted a quilted bedspread (IMHO). It is hard to make a perfert gift for anyone I think. I thought I knew my brother well but after one gift disaster, I now ask what he wants. For me, once I give something to someone, I try to let go. For someone who doesn't craft/quilt/crochet/knit, they don't understand that every step of the process is filled with thoughts of them. They are the inspiration and there is no greater tribute to our loved ones than the products of our hands and hearts. I send (((HUGS))) to you and yours.