Maybe this will help---Two years ago I found out my Dad was dying of cancer. I don't know why, because I had been trying to get "up in the air" for about 8 years, and had never been able to stick with it....but anyway, I needed something to focus on, besides Dad. Especially in the evenings, or I couldn't sleep.
So I decided I didn't want to look at or smell that pile of dirty dishes in the morning when I woke up, because it was just too depressing. I started washing the dishes every night, just so I wouldn't have to be more depressed in the morning.
It felt so good to walk into the kitchen and see that clean sink, instead of looking at that nasty mess!! Then I started setting up the coffee maker so all I had to do was hit the brew button...wow! Really nice!!!
Is my house spotless? NO WAY! But I have managed to teach myself that if the sink is free of dirty dishes/pots/pans before I go to bed and coffee is ready to brew, my whole day goes a little smoother. In these last two years, I have missed only three nights, and one of those was when my blood sugar had dropped too low and I passed out on the kitchen floor...so I guess I kinda had an excuse that night.
The rest of my house gets the "fly treatment" intermittantly, but I'm O.K. with that. Because the other thing I had learned from this, is that when I do need to "clean it up in a hurry", I don't need to panic. I just take "baby steps", do one thing at a time, work steady, and it will get done.
Try just the sink first. It will make you feel good!