Yes, I've made my wishes known, and it's in my will; quilts are assigned as I make or receive them, and the sewing room contents go to a few friends and several local organizations after my daughters and grandkids have their choice.
I can't stress this enough: PUT IN WRITING, EVERYONE!!! DO NOT COUNT ON ANYONE REMEMBERING WHAT YOU SAID YOU WANTED DONE. The courts will tell you that if your wishes aren't in writing, they cannot be followed (enforced). There must be hundreds of you out there who have personal, painful experiences of a loved one's wishes not being followed after their death. On a personal level, grief makes people act out of character sometimes, and makes others act as they truly are.
My husband and I just about choked with grief when - without our knowledge and 3 weeks after-the-fact - my (ever-mercenary, always selfish) brother-in-law told a friend of his to come in to my mother'in-law's home and take what she wanted and sell what she thought she could; he did this after taking all the high-priced electronics and antiques for himself ... and the friend of his promised him a cut on the sales of the other stuff. Unconscionable. I can't tell you how many quilt blocks and tops from the 30s, 40's, and 50's along with fabric and notions that she repeatedly stated she wanted the quilt blocks and tops to go to me (to finish for charity fundraising or family) and her grandchildren (our daughters) and the rest to go to local schools and vocational schools to teach sewing and quilting. My brother-in-law's friend wanted her mother to have it all. Unconscionable.
Thank GOD my mother-in-law gave me 3 king-size, 8 queen-size and 8 large laptop quilts tops to finish for her before she died; she wanted me to give them all to her at the same time so she could really celebrate having her "heritage finally completed" from the boxes in her attic. My daughters, grandchildren and my husband and I have those quilts, and we each have provisions in our wills as to how they quilts will continue to be loved, honored and cherished as our family heritage.
On a non-stash related note, after my brother-in-law took what he wanted and his friend took the other stuff, you'd think that what was left wasn't much. Not so! My husband and I took all the beautiful embroidered pillowcases, and all the aprons (40!!!) she wore over the decades, and which came from her mother, aunts and grandmother. My daughters received some of the pillowcases as wedding gifts to have Betty with them in their homes.
I have Betty's aprons hanging in the laundry room (see below). I always hated doing laundry until we hung those aprons up in our retirement home. My mother-in-law and I "visit" every time I go into that room, and I just love the energy of it. You can't tell by the photos, but the walls are a 50's aqua that Betty, her mother, aunts and grandmother loved, so it's like having all these wonderful women with us now. It seems the only things these women agreed on was liking this color ...!