My Mom and I are both quilters. I am the executrix (i love that word) of her will. She can be comforted to know her stash and quilts will be loved, respected and taken care of. If I were to die and my Mother were already gone, my husband would give my stash to the ladies in my quilting small group. They would take what they wanted and give the rest to a quilting charity. The quilts would be given to, or saved for, my daughter.
Occasionally, fabrics comes my way because someone has died and left behind some nice goodies. I always try to be extra respectful about using them. I try to "channel" the wishes of the original owner, even if I didn't know them. I just think what goes around comes around.