KayKwilts ... I totally respect your wish and desire to stay in your home.
The truth is that sometimes, no matter how much a family wants to respect their loved ones wishes, it is not within their ability to do so.
Sometimes the required care is not available in a personal home situation.
Sometimes controlled meds/narcotics are required, and cannot be given outside of controlled environments.
Sometimes the family members despite their good intents, are not meant to be caregivers, and would give care that would be truly classed as abuse.
And more .....
And yes, all things are possible, within the home environment, for a fee. Sadly, many do not have the financial ability to provide in that way.
And please remember, as I said above, I do respect your desire.
What I am trying to do is to put forth a balanced perspective of some of the other issues in this matter. I've only touched on a few ... and know there are so many more points that could be brought forth.