Originally Posted by kaykwilts
Sorry, I didn't mean to stir up feelings that I was knocking anyone who makes the choice to place a loved one in a nursing home or assisted living center. I was simply stating my personal preference. Medical care to extend ones life is a choice, and a very personal decision to make. If I would choose to not allow medical care that would extend my life where living meant going to a nursing/assisted living home, that remains my choice. As long as my wishes are spelled out clearly in advance, as long as my children understand this, and as long as I am of sound mind to make that decision, then I expect my children to respect my wishes.
I have no doubt that my children honoring my wishes would be a difficult choice on their part.
I have no doubt that there are a lot of really caring, good people who work with the elderly.
I have no doubt that most of them want to see the elderly treated with kindness and dignity.
And I agree...bad news sells and travels faster.
I am just stating my personal preference in the matter.
Kaykwilts, I absolutely respect and agree with what you are saying. These choices and decisions are personal and different for everyone. You are right, it is so important to spell out you wishes to your children.
There are people who don’t care and shouldn’t be in this business but fortunately they are not the majority. I want people to know that help is available to them regardless of what they decide on. The umbudsman is like a guardian angel in my eyes.