Originally Posted by QuiltE
KayKwilts ... I totally respect your wish and desire to stay in your home.
The truth is that sometimes, no matter how much a family wants to respect their loved ones wishes, it is not within their ability to do so.
Sometimes the required care is not available in a personal home situation.
Sometimes controlled meds/narcotics are required, and cannot be given outside of controlled environments.
Sometimes the family members despite their good intents, are not meant to be caregivers, and would give care that would be truly classed as abuse.
And more .....
And yes, all things are possible, within the home environment, for a fee. Sadly, many do not have the financial ability to provide in that way.
And please remember, as I said above, I do respect your desire.
What I am trying to do is to put forth a balanced perspective of some of the other issues in this matter. I've only touched on a few ... and know there are so many more points that could be brought forth.
Thank you for your kind response and thoughtful insights.
I recognize that not all have the ability to chose to stay at home...for whatever reason.
For myself, I have given these issues much thought, and have talked with my 10 children at length about what we (meaning my husband and I) want when or if the time comes that we can no longer care for ourselves. Bear in mind that I gave birth to all ten of my children here at home, and do not, as a general rule, run to a doctor at the slightest "need"...I reach for natural cures and lifestyle changes first. My children have been brought up with this lifestyle.
But I recognize that some situations cannot be controlled or handled at home. I am talking to my children, making sure they have the understanding of what our wishes are, and am putting these in writing, hoping that this will make their decisions easier. I also am trying to plan financially to provide for our care at home, as this is very important to us.
I am truly sorry if I offended anyone with my comments. That was not my intent.
I think honest, open discussion of this journey we all make someday is the best way to explore and be informed of all the issues and choices available to us all.
Thank you again for your kind and thoughtful words....you have given me food for thought and opened up some ideas of some things I need to remember.....