I think we pretty much are on the same page. I can ignore some of the mess, but not all of it. I used to be a good housekeeper, but then I got older and relized it did not really matter. I do not like filth and have gotten more comfortable with SOME clutter. The rule at my house is you live here and if you do not like how I do it, do it yourself. Also "If you are coming to see my house call first, if you are coming to see me come anytime". My husband is great. He does not fuss about much.