Originally Posted by JulieR
Originally Posted by Mamagus
Matt has already told his dad that his Mom's new husband will NOT be "Poppy-Kevin". So that leaves me wondering if that was a hint... I will not be "Nanny Lori".
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Was the comment intended to reassure your DH that HE is the grandparent they wish to honor, not the new guy? Maybe they don't like Kevin, or his mom was snotty about it. Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all.
I say just ask. Acknowledge you aren't the biological grandma but you'd love to have a relationship with their child, and what would they like you to go by? You aren't being pushy about it, just giving them the opportunity to make the decision themselves.
Whatever they decide, as others have said it isn't really important in the long run. What is important is having a good relationship with all of them.
I agree with this. And who knows, Matt may very well welcome & appreciate you asking him. I know this is what I will do when/if my 2 stepkids have children. I can think of a dozen different things I could be called, but in the end it is what the kids want that I will want.