Originally Posted by mythreesuns
I have to say.. this hit a spot with me. We have been in this situation before (twice now). My DH father passed on when my DH was 14. So I never knew his real dad. When I joined the family his mom was remarried for 3 years prior to. My DH called his step dad by his first name. When we decided to start our own family. I told my husband I thought it was best our kids call him grandpa. He has since passed on (he was the best step dad a person could ask for). My MIL has remarried again (yes 3rd time) and now my kids call him Coleman and their kids call him gramps Coleman. They save the papa for their actual grandparents.
Now my GF's parents split 9 months after she married. Both her parents have since remarried, so these kids have 3 sets of grandparents, and how they handled it was, they say gram Nancy, gram Sue and Gram Betty. The guys are all called papa Dan, papa Bob and papa Earl. So why can't they call you nana then your first name?
I think it's very important to talk it over with the child's parents.
As a person interested in geneology(spelling?) it was important in my split family that I be "Nana" and the step grands could do what they (and child's family wanted). I told my daughter this.
Her father is Papa-papa and my husband is Papa (first name). I am Nana-Nana and the other grandmothers have other names.
(The double names came about when my husband was called by 2 names they wanted 2 for their natural grandfather and me).
Now, on my husband's side(split family also) they call him Grampa (first name) and their step-grandfather the same. This does bother my husband but he hasn't said anything about it. They see their step-grandfather more often so I often wonder if they are aware that my husband is their natural grandfather.
Sticky all around isn't it?