I wouldn't say a word. Why can't you meet for dinner and a movie somewhere between your locations? They won't have to come all the way to you (leaving the dogs alone for too long) and you won't have to tolerate their dogs.
I don't chastise my friends who have bratty, destructive children; I also don't blame my friends who are allergic to my cats or afraid of my dogs. I just find other ways to see them so we can all enjoy ourselves.
PS - We pet moms need a break sometimes, too. :lol: