Originally Posted by mhansen6
Luckily as the years go by my Mother's voice in my ear is fading. She never said any thing to me that wasn't critical. To her I never made the right choices, especially when my choices were not according to her advice. My mother was a wonderful seamstress, but she did not teach me to sew. I learned from Home Economics in school. As the years went by and I had daughters of my own, I promised myself that I would NOT do the things, say the things that my Mother did. My daughters are my best friends. We have a very close relationship which I am extremely grateful for. My husband always tells me that I learned by horrible example. I have done everything the opposite of my mother. She passed away several years ago. I pray that she is happy now, because she was never happy when she was alive.
I sure can relate to this. The only thing I haven't done the opposite of my mother is keep a clean house. My house is a mess, but I am trying to clean it up. I have a daughter now and I love her to pieces. I've helped her make a few things and hope to do more with her as she grows up. She's eleven now. My mother left my Dad and married another man when I was nine. This was in the 1960's and was still somewhat scandalous. To this day, the only things I hear my mother saying are critical. She lives in assisted living now and suffers from dementia. I am her closest living relative. She claims that the home she is in is "the absolute worst place she has ever been." But she said that about the two previous homes she lived in as well. On a happier note, my Dad remarried and I have a wonderful relationship with my Mom there. She and my Dad will celebrate their 36th wedding anniversary on May 31. She helped me with my wedding and came and helped me when my babies were born. She's been a wonderful grandmother to my kids too.