I was very lucky to have my Mother close by when I had my first three, had to do the fourth alone. However, my first three were teenagers so they helped. I went to Michigan and stayed a week with first granddaughter. My daughter was living with us when second granddaughter was born. I stayed with my daughter when each of the two grandsons were born. This is the way our family (aunts, etc.) have always done it and so there was not a question.