Originally Posted by omak
and, keep her name in the frontal lobe of your brain as "doesn't play well with others" and don't bother to try again ... she has already told you what she thinks about "work" or "ethic" ...
U crack me up.
How true. Co-hosting ususally implies a shared or split (and shared) set of responsibilities. It sounds that you ASSUMED that she knew the rules. Apparently, she doesn't. Oh well!
If you want to assign her some co-hosting responsibility at this late stage, then give her the chore (but be advised that she may not do it/do it right/do it late). Or you can just DO the shower, enjoy that the guest of honor appreciates the gift of the shower and file the experience for next time.
A friend of mine threw a shower for a co-worker. When it came time to open gifts, the guest of honor asked my friend: Oh, where is your gift? Such class!