my opinion seems to coincide with most others here. I would never charge a family member. however, if they want to pay something--besides the cost of the fabric and batting, i ask them to give me a check of their desired amount and make it payable to the ACS. I send that to my friend who runs a Relay for Life. This way, we all win. I get to quilt which is a gift for me, my daughter/friend/loved one gets the quilt they want and the gift recipient gets a quilt stitched with love. win-win-win. Does it get better?