I am so aware that we do not live in a perfect world... I've just been there, done that with this almost exact same scenario - my husband does not like going back to my 'home' for any reason. I want to go at least once a year. Life is too short to miss out on family. For several years when we were first married we did not go. Then, as we grew older, as did our kids, I wanted to go once a year at least - it's 1200 miles away. He went a few times, but then had no desire to return. He has never disallowed me to go - except one time - not conducive to our income/lives that year, so I stayed home. He has returned a couple of times with me. He has no problem with my going, but if he did I'd stay home - he knows my heart and thankfully agrees that it's ok for me to go - I've gone with no children, with one and sometimes with all three. Thankfully it works out. I hope and pray that all here will be able to go and have a blessed time.