I have been widowed for 22 years, engaged for 12 years and do not care to get married again. Know how your "friend" feels. I am commited to him, but do not feel the need to get married. Of course he feels differently - he gets on his knee at least once a year and asks me to get married, Now maybe if he had given me a diamond each time, I might change my mind..........LOL. By the way, I am 63. My first marriage was wonderful - was married 19 years when DH died, so that has nothing to do with it - just do not want to get married again!!