OHHH How I know how you feel. Do what I do. Keep telling yourself over and over out loud. "it could be worse. They could be on drugs, or drinking or pregnant without a stable partner, or......." I remember a particularly bad time with our daughter and my husband and I went out to dinner. Unbeknownst to me there was a friend sitting on the other side of the barrier from us. She said later she didn't want to disturb us cause we seemed to be in deep conversation and we kept saying over and over to one another "it could be worse, it could be worse" LOL