I asked a therapist, no less, a question one time...he did not respond, bc he wanted me to figure it out myself.
Here's what I figured out: If a person had to even question something, then they are not sure...yet. When they are sure, they will know bc the yes' and the pro's, (versus cons), and their heart, will tell them. :D
wow, I am impressed. I wrote my reply after reading maybe one or two answers, and it seems, just about everybody gave a similar answer. This was edited in, when I got to the end.
:D