I am so sorry for all that you are going through. I absolutely can relate to your feeling guilty when you quilt. I really have to fight that feeling. Through the years I have told myself that I shouldn't quilt until all the housework is done, yardwork done, etc.... Well we all know that NEVER happens. In the past I've gone many months not allowing myself to quilt because there were so many others "more important" things I felt I should be doing. It is a hard balancing act to do, keeping the home livable, cooking, time with our familys, church activites, etc..., but we need to allow ourselves time for what gives us such joy also. Like everyone else has said, take care of yourself and you will be so much more able to take care of your DH and your difficult situation.