In our family, we have a five minute rule.
When we are feeling any bad emotion, we get to actually just feel it for five minutes - - there are no laws on the book that life has to only have fun and games ... so often, we get into a lot of emotional and mental anguish because we refuse to look at how we feel.
Or, we spend so much time feeling the bad things that we get lost in there.
So, we practice the five minute rule.
The five minute rule states:
You get to feel anything you want, as much as you want for five minutes.
After that, you MUST get up and go do something constructive, something productive, and usually something for someone else.
From time to time, you will feel bad again, just practice the five minute rule, everytime. The key will come to you, but only as you MOVE.
I can't imagine what you are going through, but you are never alone.
We have been through these things before, there are others who have showed us the way ...
you can do this, and I am sure that your husband is glad that you are there to share his day and that you have your quilting to do as an encouragement. Husbands really do take a lot of pride in supporting us in the manner to which we wish to become accustomed.
I wish I could tell you about how I came to be such a purveyor of pleasant thoughts, but I love Pollyanna ... it will be better, and I hope the company is good on the journey!