Originally Posted by butterflywing
why does your 'other' want to get married? is he afraid of losing you?
why isn't he satisfied to go on this way? do you have more money than he does? LOL! do you have a better job than he does? does he love you so much he can't be without you? ask him. and tell him why you're afraid. he may be able to assure you that it will be okay.
is your freedom more important than he is? if you had to choose between the two, which would you choose right now? if push comes to shove, that's the choice to make.
Wise words - can't improve on that advice!
I've been married twice and divorced twice and looking back, both times were for all the wrong reasons! I was unsure about marrying Hans (current live-in BF!) when it first came up but only because the first two didn't work out and I was worried that marriage would put the hex on our relationship. When I met Hans, for the first time in my life I had a good talk with myself before committing to a relationship - is this what I really want? I think in the past I went with the flow too much, just let myself be carried along with the tide. It's great that you're asking yourself these questions and i don't think it necessarily means that you SHOULDN'T marry the guy. But only marry him if you can't not!
If I had to choose freedom or Hans? Hans, Hans and double Hans! He's quite literally my other half and for this reason alone, I'll marry him!
K x