I think that it takes most woman a long time to realize that you can't do it all. I finally came to realize (after 50!) that if you have Mom or Mrs attached to your name, there are some things that may be very difficult or even impossible to do ie DH does not want me accepting a job even a well paying one 6 hours away! I have now decided to focus on the things that are important and those that make me happy. I can say no to a lot of those other things that sap my time and energy and bring me little pleasure or thanks. Women really do have to make choices.