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Thread: You really can't have it all! Just sayin'...

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    When I was younger I used to think you could - husband, kids, pets, job, house, extended family.

    Now, not so much.

    Now, even with older kids, husband long gone, down to 2 cats, both kids and 7 mo gs, job, house, and immediate family, I still don't have enough time.

    I decided to pick one main thing and get good at it and forget the others. Like, if I want to sell hand made items, it can't be baby quilts and doll clothes and handbags, it has to be one thing, otherwise, they will not be good enough. There seems to be, in my world anyway, not a lot of time to sew so that's my new plan.

    Do you feel the same way? Please, someone say yes! :?

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    i doubt that i can narrow things down to one, but i have definitely limited the number of things i think i can handle at one time :)

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    Find a market for a product, and you'll be too busy to "make everything". A long time ago I read about a family looking to farm something. All the farmers around them, in general, were struggling to make a living. They found the restaurants locally needed fresh parsley. Voila! Their calling!

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    I'm retired now and don't know how I found enough time to ever go to work. Not sure if its because I'm interested in more things or just that it takes me longer. I'm very much a newbie at quilting so interested in trying all sorts of things but I can see that if you are going to sell what you make you might want to specialise. But there is sense in making a small variety so that you reach a wider market.
    Maybe a variety of small projects that are not too time consuming so that you can perfect your skills in a relatively short time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Butterfli19
    When I was younger I used to think you could - husband, kids, pets, job, house, extended family.

    Now, not so much.

    Now, even with older kids, husband long gone, down to 2 cats, both kids and 7 mo gs, job, house, and immediate family, I still don't have enough time.

    I decided to pick one main thing and get good at it and forget the others. Like, if I want to sell hand made items, it can't be baby quilts and doll clothes and handbags, it has to be one thing, otherwise, they will not be good enough. There seems to be, in my world anyway, not a lot of time to sew so that's my new plan.

    Do you feel the same way? Please, someone say yes! :?
    When I was younger I could juggle, kids, ball games, daycare mommies, volunteer work, hubby (although sometimes he was on the bottom of the totem pole, now he is at the top!!) and part time work along with the mowing and housekeeping and laundry.................................But now I limit myself to one or two things at a time.

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    There just doesn't seem to be enough time in the day to get everything done you want to do.

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    Yes, either not enough planning or just getting older.

    Makes me wonder how tired those who lived in the 1800's were, toiling with cooking three meals and running the farms all day, day after day. Today we have it so much easier and we still get worn out!

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    I remember doing "it all" when I was younger. Now I find it harder to just keep up with home and 1 child without trying to maintain a career.

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    Yup. As a "younger" quilter, I'm just turning the corner from trying to be all things to all people, and just doing what *I* love. Sometimes that is helping others, but as they say, if momma ain't happy, ain't NOOOOOBODY HAPPY!

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    Quote Originally Posted by dakotamaid
    Quote Originally Posted by Butterfli19
    When I was younger I used to think you could - husband, kids, pets, job, house, extended family.

    Now, not so much.

    Now, even with older kids, husband long gone, down to 2 cats, both kids and 7 mo gs, job, house, and immediate family, I still don't have enough time.

    I decided to pick one main thing and get good at it and forget the others. Like, if I want to sell hand made items, it can't be baby quilts and doll clothes and handbags, it has to be one thing, otherwise, they will not be good enough. There seems to be, in my world anyway, not a lot of time to sew so that's my new plan.

    Do you feel the same way? Please, someone say yes! :?
    When I was younger I could juggle, kids, ball games, daycare mommies, volunteer work, hubby (although sometimes he was on the bottom of the totem pole, now he is at the top!!) and part time work along with the mowing and housekeeping and laundry.................................But now I limit myself to one or two things at a time.
    I too when I was younger I was able to work nights, study during the day and went to school kept the kids cooked, cleaned, etc.. with no help. Today, I focus on on a few things at a time, such as work, because I have too, and work hard to perfect my quilting .

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    Sucks doesn't it. Fulltime job, parttime job, cross stitching, quilting, baseball, bowling twice a week, cook, clean, shop. There is never enough time to devote to just one of those let alone all of them and then cram in 4 hours of sleep a night.

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    I can't believe all the stuff I used to do 25 years ago. Big garden, cut wood, pick wild strawberries, hand-quilt 6 hours a day, refinish furniture, AND my house was clean.

    Of course all this was before the internet...

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    The kids have all flown the nest, just hubby and I here at the house. I still work, hubby is retired, the. grand kids visit often. I never seem to have enough time to do anything. Maybe because I'm older, and I move slower, who knows. I know that when I was younger, I had a lot more energy. I could work 40 hours, cart the kids to soccer, swimming, school, church, play dates, clean, do laundry and then sew till 1 or 2 in the morning. Not anymore!! I need to get to bed by 9 or 9:30. I still get up at 4:30 in the morning.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ptquilts
    I can't believe all the stuff I used to do 25 years ago. Big garden, cut wood, pick wild strawberries, hand-quilt 6 hours a day, refinish furniture, AND my house was clean.

    Of course all this was before the internet...
    I think you hit on it. I keep desperately trying to figure out where to simplify my life so I have time. I can't even keep up with my housework and soapmaking much less have time to sew. But maybe if I turned off my computer....

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    I know what you mean. A few years back, I dabbled in every kind of handicraft there was. I sewed, quilted, latch hooked, locker hooked, cross stitched, knitted, scrapbooked, you name it I was doing it. 2 years ago, I decided that I needed to simplify my life, not just in what was going on around me personally but craft wise too. I decided that I wanted to focus mainly on quilting and sewing. I had a garage sale to clear out some things that were not necessary for me to survive and I sold every craft tool and supply that I owned that didn't pertain to quilting and sewing. It was so liberating to see all the clutter in my life leave the driveway. Plus, I made some money to buy more quilting and sewing items!!

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    You are all making me sad! I remember all the things I got done in my 30's and sometimes feel frustrated that I am slower and find it harder now. I do enjoy life a lot, though, and am blessed with the richest of blessings, so I will focus on that=and go on!!

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    Yep, I sold or gave away a lot of my craft stuff in favor of quilting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by QuiltnNan
    i doubt that i can narrow things down to one, but i have definitely limited the number of things i think i can handle at one time :)
    same here...I am finally giving up most of my crafts and sticking with sewing stuff! THough I still do painted stuff too...

    as a Gemini that is artsy/craftsy by nature, I just have to have a million things going on at all times it seems...but lately...I am shooting for a FINER hundred!

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    Do what makes YOU happy and is less stressful :D:D:D

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    I think that it takes most woman a long time to realize that you can't do it all. I finally came to realize (after 50!) that if you have Mom or Mrs attached to your name, there are some things that may be very difficult or even impossible to do ie DH does not want me accepting a job even a well paying one 6 hours away! I have now decided to focus on the things that are important and those that make me happy. I can say no to a lot of those other things that sap my time and energy and bring me little pleasure or thanks. Women really do have to make choices.

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    when i was much younger, i worked my hospital job full time, had three kids and hubby, at one time had 22 pets around here, had a huge garden, canned and froze produce, made jam, took night classes, sang in the choir at church, taught sunday school, was a deaconess, and headed up the monthly birthday cake donations for a nearby institution for mentally ill long term patients. now, i work .9, have no kids, one hubby, one ancient cat, and no time. i don't know how i used to do it. now time is sucked up by some hungry hole in the universe that just plain sucks it in like a tornado. more and more i do less and less. i wonder if my generation is the one that's finding out the hard way that you can have it all--but you get too tired to do anything with it!

    now after work i sit and catch up on the computer, and take a nap so i have enough strength to put on my jammies and do it all again the next day.i buy fabric, sew a little now and then, and wish i had energy to do it all again. i will die with one more project on my mind, and one more quilt laying by the machine...

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    At 68, I tell my kids I've gotten selfish in my old age. I did the wife/mommy thing for 22 years. When it became 'just me', I continued doing it all for a long time. When I discovered quilting, I decided that I could do what I wanted, when I wanted. Now, I'm still working full time, but if my house isn't as clean as it should be and there are some weeds in the yard, 'oh, well'. It's my life and I should be able to enjoy it.

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    I guess do one than if your get tired of it do the next thing on your list. There is never enough time. but maybe there is a good reason for it.

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    YES !!

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    I used to be you also and I have tried to find that one dream I still have left that could help me make a living. I haven't yet and until I do I just listen to my heart and try what it says "that's interesting or I really like that pattern for pillows." Maybe you have a favorite pattern for pillows and a new interior designer that's looking for fresh talent." There's usually one area of sewing/quilting/designing we all like best. Find out what makes you come alive and do it. Even if turns out to be floral or garden design. {{{{HUGS}}}} :-D :-D :-D

    I can't do a fraction of the things I did now that I'm in my mid 60's. I fall off into never never land while reading emails and try not to beat myself for all the time I should have used more wisely today. I have to leave should at the door mat and be glad I can still do what I do. If we fail to listen to our bodies God just unplugs me and makes me rest. Welcome to Twilight of our lives."

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