Originally Posted by ajat0921
My husband is in denial of this, and refuses to talk to me about it, but is happy go lucky about anything else you talk about.
my mother asked if I did something wrong while pregnant.
I am so sorry you have to deal with this as well as the autism.
Husbands can be so wierd about perceived imperfections, he probably thinks it is his fault. My husband's mother's last child had a neural tube defect and died at six months. He never said anything during our five loses, but I came to find out that he thought it might be his fault our babies died. It is so strange how deep men can be sometimes. I believe is it because they love us so much and when they can't fix something it just eats at their heart and they shut down. I know I never expected my husband to think the way he did.
I don't mean to sound to over angry, but what your mom said, she should be so ashamed. I will never understand a mother treating her child like that. Moms should really try hard not to say such thoughtless and insensitive stuff. One time in the hospital after I had lost the twins at almost 20 weeks. My mom came in and told the doctor (in front of me) "I don't understand, I had six children I didn't even want with no problem, why does she keep loosing these babies." So you are not the only one with an insensitive mom.
I am so sorry your weekend went so bad, hope you were able to get a glass of wine today. Take care of yourself, you are definitely needed by your family. Maribeth