I'm so sorry. Sometimes mom's can say insensitive things without realizing it, maybe because they are still in shock over the news, and feel they somehow have to justify or find a reason or a cause, cus in their minds they're thinking this just can't happen, there has to be a reason. I'm so very sorry you're going through this, but you have received some very good advice here, hope you are able to make a connection with Rhonda's daughter, i'm sure that will be so helpful (((hugs)))