Many years ago I taught adult education and one of the subjects related to "I Messages" meaning - such and such effects me in such and such a way rather than say "you must or have to do such and such". I find too many of the message imply that the way I do it is the only way and certainly the proper way. No reason is given for the way things are done - such as......"I don't pre wash because....." and then let the one who questioned make up their own mind. Or.......instead of saying "you must use 1/4" seams because thats the way of true quilting......instead of - making consistent seams makes the process easier and pieces fit......
Enough said.
And then my most pet peeve......is a question that does not give all the details and facts and then 2 dozen answer without having a clue as to the initial problem.....ust guessing about what it might be.