Well sweetie, I think your name says it all. You are JOY! To care for all those men, and still find the energy to pour your love into quilt making is something to be proud of.
I will tell you a little secret - since I joined this board, I only post pictures of what I think are my best works. I don't bother showing my "everyday stuff." I'll bet there a lot of folks on this board who do everyday stuff right along with fancy and fabulous, but we only see their fancy and fabulous.
Please don't be so hard on yourself. The fact you can carry on with all the responsibilities you have shows you are an inspired and inspirational person!!