I hear what your saying but have to say as hard as it is, if you donate your quilts then you give them knowing that they either may not receive the money you had invested into them if sold or raffled or may not be cherished as you would like to think they would be.
I have been making and donating quilts for awhile now, and the other day I received a call about the latest 2 quilts that were donated asking me where I would like them to go. I usually donate them to the children's hospital. During the conversation it came out that the last quilts I had donated were sold in the hospital shop for $20. Well I was horrified and sat there thinking - but the materials alone cost $100 not including the cost of having them quilted. This woman told me they were so beautiful that they are snapped up when the shop sells them. So I told this person that I have no objection to the hospital selling them to raise funds for what ever but the least they could do was put a reasonbale price on them to reflect their value. As a donation it didn't need to be a really high price just reasonable, $20 I did not think was reasonable .
At the end of the day though I accept that what I gave was a donation, once it has left my hands it is gone and the reality is I do what I do because I love to do it.
Maybe1day