Try to focus on the positive rather than the negative.
Realise that when you marry, you take on the other person's "issues" (family, past, foibles etc) and there is no point being surprised when this causes problems. You just roll up your sleeves and recognise that his problems are your problems (and vice versa) and work through it.
Communication is of course important, BUT you also have to remember that his definition of communication may not be the same as yours! Lots of men are comfortable with less communication about their feelings than their partner would like, and sometimes we have to just leave him alone and NOT talk about out feelings. Not for the big things, obviously, but pick your battles- some things you just have to let go. Focus on the positive and let the small things go- you are not perfect yourself.