I'm on a second marriage - this one lasting 21 years thus far - and we have found that not doing every thing together works great. He has his interests, I have mine. That gives us something to talk about and have laughs over. If you are joined at the hip and have to do everything together, what is there to talk about while you are having your meals? Yes, we do things together but he gets to have his McDonald's coffee with the guys and I get to have my bridge games with the gals. He gets to putz out at his shop, I get to putz in my sewing room. Works.