You all could be talking about me (and I'm not color blind). (Although I do not have a stash from the 70's).
I can coordinate my clothing but have a heck of a time trying to make fabrics work together. I can do colors, but not scale. That is why I will often copy the colors in a quilt.
I always take a friend along who has been quilting for a long time. As far as a book...I would never slow down long enough to take the time to read it. I would rather be quilting..so I am happy copying and occasionally do a good job picking out colors... I am pretty new at this and am still learning.
I just appreciate any help that I get.. Lend your friend a pair of scissors and offer to help chop that orange fabric smaller (However, I do like a soft coral or orangey color--lol).