Please, please, please include the groom's mother in some of your planning. It can take some of the stress off you. I have 3 boys. One got married a year ago, and while the bride was willing to include me, her mother was not. She did not call me once during 9 months of planning, and would not tell me anything when I called her. She would not let me know what to wear or how much I could do for the rehearsal without upstaging the reception. I got my dress 2 weeks before the wedding. THEN, she expected me to help out the day before with the panic running. It really hurt. They are happy and expecting our first grandchild in Feb. so that is what counts.