Well I don't hide anything because we have a joint account....and I guess I would put my DH in the enabler category...he doesn't say either way...But if there is something I really want..he always wants me to have it because he says I work to hard and do everything for everyone else..so I deserve it. He hates it when I deny myself something I want/need.
Does he realize how much quilting costs...NO. Does he really care....probably not.
But he also plays paintball.....football stuff for he and the boys...He and my boys do many activities together and they are not cheap...so I never say anything to him.
It's a win-win