well ladies may i tell my story? my husband and i could not have children, (he was sterile), we went to doctors, we tried - to no avail. Finally after 9 years of marriage, we adopted a newborn baby girl. She was the joy of our lives. I always wanted to get pregnant and have several children but that just wasn't to be. I would have given anything to be in "your" shoes. I'm not underminding the frustrations you go through raising several children, i was from a family of 7 children and so was my husband. when our daughter was 3 years old, my husband had a heart attack and we couldn't pass the strict adoption agency rules for health purposes, so we had to settle for just one. When our daughter was 13, my husband died and I was left to finish raising her alone - which was not easy at times. But I made it and yall are right, time does pass and circumstances change - my wonderful daughter is now 45, a school teacher, and i'm 72 and still work part time as a barber. I realize when you're young it's difficult to imagine yourself old but it does happen and so quickly too it seems like. so i consider all of you extremely fortunate to have your children and I know you do too. When I was a kid and griped about something, my dad said i used to complain that i didn't have any shoes till i met a man that didn't have any feet.