My DD came home from her great grandmother's house one day and said Mom Grandy said I was stupid. I told her well if you do stupid things you get called stupid. I found out later Grandy told her not to be stupid like she was by running off and getting married at a young age.
Bearisgrey never said she called her kids stupid she asked how can they be so stupid. Believe me my kids have done some stupid things and they know without asking I think they were stupid for doing them.