I am in your shoes also. I live in Michigan also but over near Graand Rapids. I am an "more mature" mom so the young moms pretty much snub me---don't really care about that but sure would be nice to have a true friend. I have one "friend" who calls about every 6 months when she needs something--otherwise no contact with me. My close friend has moved out east and we talk,,,but it's not the same.
Who has the time or desire to bar hop??? Not me!
I spend a lot of time on the QB and that is where I am building friendships...although not the same as going to lunch with someone or shopping for fabric. Hang in there.