I guess I'm not getting it. My Mom had Alzheimers and became very violent. I had 24 hour care of her, alongside my Dad, until she passed. Right after that, Dad had a stroke and required full time care and rehab. He was in a rehab unit, but hated it and asked me to please, let him be with me. So....I did. Lots of therapy and Dad is well now, and living back in his own house. I'm trying to get some "me" time, but somehow, with all the catching up, I can't find a spare moment. I hope to...in the near future. Thanks to all for the reinforcement. I don't feel so guilty about letting things go.