Originally Posted by jmabby
I had two nephews, twins, born early, one died yesterday. I had started to make a wall hanging of Noah's ark with "They come two by two". Would you still give it or would you just make another wall hanging not mentioning the little boy that died??
I am so sorry for the loss. Could you tactfully ask Mom if she would be sad or prefer to see anything mentioning the child who died, would she rather a gift reflect joy in the life that she has to hold and love? My guess is she will appreciate that you acknowledge she had 2 sons.
I definitely would give her opportunity to talk about the baby they lost - it is healthy to be allowed to grieve even though there is also a cause for celebration in the son who survived. She has had twins, loves them both and will never forget the little one lost. Too many people want to pretend the baby missing never existed.
(Speaking not as a Mom who suffered that terrible tragedy, but as an OB Nurse having cared for & loved far too many grieving families.)