This happened to me and my suggestion is that you wait. Find something else to give her. The parents are grieving at the same time as they are bringing their baby home and it is too much right now. Follow their lead in how they handle it in the next few months. They may just be so busy with the new baby that they decide to concentrate on him, not forgetting their other son, of course, but concentrating on the life before them. We all have to come to this anyway, at some point in time, so please hold off. On the first birthday of that little boy who will be lively and rambunctious, you can give him a quilt. In my personal opinion, if you give it for both, it will forever be painful. The pain DOES subside with having another child to be busy with, trust me :) :)