I work in a newborn nursery, and occasionally the NICU. A number of my friends in NICU have taken grief counseling classes and do the initial counseling at the hospital, so I am a little familiar with what is going on right now. I don't know how fast a quilter you are, but if you could make up a small doll quilt size quilt for the baby that died to be either buried with the infant or as a keepsake for the parents in their memory box, that would be best right now. Save your other quilt for another time and feel mom out about it later. She may want to use it for her surviving baby or, again, as a reminder of both. The surviving baby, I think you are going to initially have to make another quilt for, but you have time on that one. It will be a few weeks before he is ready to go home and if your NICU is like ours, they have their own supply of quilts they use, but are not given to parents to take home, so you have time, and you don't want him to have it before he leaves the hospital, as it could be mistaken for one of theirs and reused for other babies. Virg