I lived 40 years with my husband and only the past 10, did I realize I had to stop keeping score and announce it. I worked a full time job, earning as much or more than him and until I pointed out the unequal balance of 'toys', did he back off and even change his attitude from selfish to generous. His family was definatly old world. It evolved as many has, but some factors were resisted, such as a woman's position. Now if he sees something while shopping or at a garage sale, he will call and ask if I am interested. Quite the transformation