My mom (I'm 50) instilled in us that men do not "babysit" their own children (I REALLY hate this one) that working at home is just as important, that ironing military uniforms and polishing boots isn't a wives responsibility. That spending money on what makes us happy should make them happy as long as paying bills isn't an issue.
My BIL tells people when they ask where my sis is that "she is out saving him money" because she is shopping the sales. He often says "Bunny please don't save me any money today"!!