The COFFEE POT! The most important item in my house if I am having guests, LOL!
Seriously, I married young and lived 13 years with an abusive man who let me know constantly that my efforts were never good enough. After I divorced him I still felt the effects of that terrorism for a long time.
I didn't realize how much I had internalized it all until I met my wonderful husband. Shortly after we married, 16 years ago, he made me a small laminated card to carry in my wallet that had my name and stated that I was now officially exempt from having to live up to other peoples expectations on it. He told me that I was to hand it to anyone who made me feel I was not "good enough".
It sounds silly but was very freeing! I have never had to use it, lol, just having it in my purse is enough to remind myself that I am free of that bondage.
Deb