Well, I'm pretty sure she is a he now. He just looks so feminine... especially next to her.. I mean his brother. And yes, they will be neutered soon. Any stray that seems to make this their home will get altered. I wish we could catch the mama. Eventually they usually wind up on our bed too. Dh has already made comments about them coming in at some point. We already have an older female with kidney failure and a male with fiv (both strays at one point). Not sure how well it will work with 3 males in the house. (The vet and online info both agree that transmitting fiv is not typical. It would have to come from serious bite wounds. - which just makes introducing them properly all the more important!)