I totally know how you feel. My best friend at work had breast cancer 3 years ago. She was only 43 and had a double masectomy. I praise her courage for what she went thru. I did not quilt back then but did put together a very nice package of gifts from everyone in our dept at work. I personally think a pink and white quilt would be lovely. I know that my friend appreciated all the breast cancer awarness gifts she got. I think you friend will love whatever you make. I am sending a hug and prayers.